The people we remember

We always remember (mostly I should say) people who have influenced or impacted us at various points in our life. We do forget people, or cannot recall names of people we know, or not able to recall important events in our life wherein a few folks have helped us not expecting any return. But we should be able to recall if we invest some time.

How about people who remember us?

Apart from our close circle of relatives and friends, are there others who we have helped? Do they choose to remember us?

I thought this is an interesting topic on which I have some thoughts to share.

I met couple of my MBA classmates yesterday for lunch. They have been close to me over the years, which meant that the remembrance cycle worked both ways without much effort. That is possible only when a deep bond had been established for a long while. We were simply effortless in getting into a discussion on all kinds of things, especially about our children, their priorities, real estate, will, health issues, travels, and what not. This was expected any way, and it is not surprising at all. Most of us would have such classmate friends with who we would be in touch. Even if we do not speak with each other for months or years, the ease with which we could reconnect has always remained as a beautiful sensation to be relished.

The very important aspect of such reconnection is the transparency which engulfs us – nothing is sacrosanct, or nothing too personal. Everything can be shared with an openness which doesn’t come easily when we are with some other non-bonded friends or relatives. In fact, with relatives I have always been more careful!

A similar get-together happened last year with my secondary school classmates about which I have written in this blog. But that was a larger group and so the discussions were on an elevated level, not really personal one-on-one kind of interaction. However, I enjoyed meeting with several classmates who I haven’t seen for more than four decades. It brought back memories of those years including the antics in the classroom!

Next month, there will be an event which brings together my engineering college alumni across many batches. I haven’t kept in touch with that group, and so it would be a revelation of sorts when I meet them. The mutual learning process is priceless, and I hope it would turn out accordingly as something that portrays a re-living experience from those years in the college.

Whenever there was an interesting or impactful anecdote in my life, I have been able to recall the people involved – like a classmate who did unusual antics, a teacher who we teased, a lecturer who delivered fabulous lectures, a corporate colleague who was very helpful in tackling a problem, and so on. There are many I do not just recall, but I guess that’s OK. I have not kept a diary of events wherein I received help from someone connected in some capacity with me!

On the other hand, I do remember people with who I have had unpleasant experiences. I don’t know why however – why should I remember those guys? For instance, I had a very contemptuous boss one time who always looked down on me. I wanted to forget him, but I am unable to do so! His unreasonableness had impacted me so severely that I decided I would never ever inflict such behaviour on people working for me.

Then there are people with who we come in touch infrequently. For example, the janitor in my condominium who I see only once a month or sometimes once in two months. But I recall her face and her commitment to her work. Another example is the very helpful person in the management office of the condominium who always responds rather quickly and fixes any problem. There are many others like both in my immediate environments in Singapore and Chennai. I can get their faces in my memory instantaneously and sometimes with gratitude. Again, this is not unusual for any one of us.

What about the people who choose to remember me? May be for what I did to help them? Or as a classmate or colleague? Or even a relative?

Our life comprises of people we choose to remember and those others who recall us in their memories. We would know of those others only when they contact us even innocuously, otherwise we may not even remember them.

As we get older, it is to be expected that our memories would fade. This is one reason that I keep the names of people in a note that I can access any time. It is not for the purpose of wishing happy birthdays. It is to keep my memory refreshed at all times. When I look at that list, I am able to relive the times in which a specific person on the list was connected with me. Sometimes, I even go to the extent of giving a call or messaging that person. When there is no motive, such interactions are always meaningful and pleasant.

Our life is full of incidents – most of which are routine, some of which are unexpected. We deal with them on an ongoing basis. But do we devote a special time every week to reconnect with at least one person who has influenced us in a positive manner? It is not to thank them, but to stay in touch. That way, there is the opportunity for them to remember us as well. It works both ways, and it is always a pleasant experience.

I am now doing this as a habit. My partner is sometimes surprised when she discovers I am in a deep conversation with a person she has not come across and with who I do not speak usually. But I should say that my emotional balance is better after I finish such a conversation with someone that I have not spoken to for many years.

Life gets to be more meaningful that way!

Have a good week ahead,

Cheers,
Vijay Srinivasan
20th September 2026

What I don’t need anymore

When I was young, I wanted to have many things in life. And that desire continued through much of my working life.

It is not unusual to want a better home, a better car, more money to spend on discretionary items (the things you really don’t need!), more travels, more physical things like better quality suits for instance, accessories and gadgets, expensive ties, pens, and a series of status symbols. The list kept mounting as I witnessed all these things and more in my network of corporate colleagues and friends. I thought “there is nothing wrong in wanting more such items – may be these things would enhance the quality of my life”. I am not using English grammar well here, so please excuse me but you get the point.

I used to be very possessive of my things. I would rarely ever throw items which I was not using anyway. The inventory of such things kept growing over the years. I loved what I had bought, never mind it was just a T-shirt. I always thought I should preserve things on which I had spent my hard-earned money. Nothing wrong with that orientation, I should say.

But a deeper examination of my own desires led me to the conclusion that I had the inherent tendency to not only be part of some esoteric group, but also to impress people I came across. I did not wish to be left outside of any such group of which I was a part. Further, status symbols were part and parcel of the growing greed of capitalism and people affiliated with the practice of capitalistic businesses. I have to disclose that I was an active participant in that kind of practice. Again, nothing wrong with that.

As I matured into my retirement, I discovered that those things were no longer relevant for my life. In fact, the list of items that I want to have now is much, much shorter than that long list of items of “conformity”, laced with personal desires. I want hardly anything now, may be change my sneakers at best? or, buy a book? or, indulge in dark sugarless chocolate? It is so much different now.

I am getting out of my “possessive” mode of mindset. I bundled together a whole lot of good T-shirts, collared business shirts, pants, jackets, and so on, and gave these much treasured items to the janitor in my condominium complex. She was very happy. Now I am hunting for more items to give away – just shortlisted old luggage pieces still in good usable condition which I would have never given away in normal course. The list of such items is growing, while the list of things I want now is shortening.

Apart from such physical things, I am also looking at other non-tangibles – do I need to be on LinkedIn for instance, do I have to be part of certain groups (I got out of my IIM group two months ago), do I have to debate and win arguments all the time, do I have to be “right” every time, can I allow myself to be “wrong”, do I still have to impress people, and so on.

It is interesting to see how things which were once too important to me are no longer important or relevant to the conduct of my current or future life. I gave up my car though I could have afforded it, and when I walk on the roads I feel more in tune with the commoners – just a feeling. As I take bus and MRT (subway or metro) rides, I feel that I am just as common as any other passenger. Not special or esoteric anymore. Nothing unusual about me. I merge with the millions rather than with the few hundreds.

The main thing that I am investing my time on these days is social and personal relationships. I love to reconnect with old friends with who I have had remote connections on and off, but with who I had built a symbiotic relationship. I like to call them up and arrange for a meeting. Today I am having a lunch session with two such dear friends, one of who I have not met for more than 16 years. As I realise that life does not afford the luxury of indefinite time permanence, my wants have been changing.

One other significant desire of mine is to visit a few countries – a bucket list. I ticked off a few in the recent past, such as Scotland, Spain, Croatia, etc., but how about identifying one such place for 2027? That kind of focus distracts my mind from any physical things. The other facet of my life is research on a variety of matters, the recent one being meditation techniques suggested by Andrew Huberman of Stanford. I hardly had any time to do such research during my working life, but I have plenty of time now.

I also discovered the pleasure of “coffee dates”, though I am no fan of Starbucks or Coffee Bean kind of cafes. I learnt the idea of such dates from my daughter. The concept itself is not new, I have been meeting colleagues for coffee wherever I worked. But the difference now is that you have time to dissect a variety of topics over an hour of coffee (which I personally avoid!) with a syncing mind of another individual. It could be a dear friend or it could be your spouse, daughter or son-in-law. I even went for a coffee date with my grandson! We talked about his passion for building lego toys.

You see that the list is ever shrinking and ever changing all the time. It could be comprised of anything. How about getting the home deep-cleaned? My mind is engaged on such mundane matters of current interest and relevance to my life. I am working on a project to build a screen for my balcony to reduce sun glare and achieve more usable area, and this has taken up a lot of my time but it has been enjoyable. I run everything through my partner, or sometimes do a joint project.

In conclusion, there is just no conclusion! Life continues with much less desires and many fewer things.

Have a good weekend,

Cheers
Vijay Srinivasan
19th September 2026

An Earlier Version

We all use computers, smart phones and smart watches (at least most of us do!).

Almost like clockwork, every couple of months you get an update notification – the operating system needs a BIOS update, a security update, a version update, and so on. I am not sure of what is happening in the Windows world as I have long ago left that beautifully confusing world of Microsoft, and have been committed to Apple products ever since. Unfortunately, not all the application software I use is from Apple, because Apple does not make those applications. I have to depend on external apps (some of these emanate from Microsoft!). I have a habit of updating my Apple-oriented software almost instantaneously, as soon as the notification arrives either on my laptop or on my iPhone. So, I can say with confidence that my Apple products are always up to date. The reason is simple – if a hacker has got into the tightly coupled Apple ecosystem, then that is a big unusual danger; and if Apple releases a patch or a full update, we must quickly pay heed to it.

Now, this blog post is not about IT devices or Apple products.

It is about myself.

Yes.

Sometimes, I wind myself back to an “earlier” version of me, and look at that character with serious interest. It is exactly like the external hard drive that is connected to my Apple laptop, which uses Apple Time Machine settings to constantly keep my files updated in its drive. The unique thing is that it keeps an entire copy of the system as on various dates/times, and I can traverse back by dates/times and look at what was the state of the system some two weeks ago, or even two months ago. Of course, there is a limit since the hard drive can hold only so much, right? I think you get the picture.

All of us keep ourselves “updated” to the current time, what with the changes engulfing the world around us. The worry is that if we do not constantly keep ourselves up to date, we might either be out of date, or completely become irrelevant. So we try to , and aspire to be, the latest version of ourselves. Funny, but that is the way it is.

Now you see that you can choose a specific year in the past, or a range of years in the past of your life and browse back to those periods to see how you were – how did you dress, what did you do, and how did you behave? Were you a good guy, or were you kind to others? What exactly did you achieve in those years?

Fascinating to browse back and take a deeper look. I would get a variety of feelings when I zero in on a specific year – could be sheer happiness, or a kind of depression, or a sense of fulfillment, and so on. Many a time the year(s) I choose would be related to specific milestones, such as when I became the business head of a country’s business operations, or when my first grandchild was born, and so on. Those are the dates that you always remember. You should indeed.

The manner in which we operated in a specific past year would have been very different from what you would do in this current year. This is because our mind continues to constantly develop itself (never stops) and so our maturity and perception of events continue to change constantly. The way we view certain people in our business or personal life changes. The way we design or execute things changes. We become a different person eventually. We become more mature and more measured. We may not be that expressive as we were in the past. We gauge the situation around us more cautiously as we get older. If you do not agree with that, it is perfectly fine. You are just a “non-updated” operating system, which still survives well!

When I wander into my twenties, I wonder how I managed it all with what I would consider an obsolete operating system operating in a rather strange environment with lots of constraints. I come to the conclusion that if I had persevered and survived all those years, then I would just do well with whatever I have at the present moment.

Wrong conclusion.

Everything changes incrementally in life, and before we fully realise the impact of those continual changes, many years would have passed by. If we do not track those incremental changes, and continuously measure their impact, then our earlier operating system would not function properly. So, a constant update is a required necessity to handle the ever-changing world. I would need a new system, and had to keep updating myself almost every month, if not every day.

This is the reason why I never appreciate folks who refer back to the glorious past of any history, including theirs. Those great events are no longer relevant, and have not been relevant for a long time. You may then turn around and ask me, “Hey, I learnt a lot from my life experiences. Are you saying all that learning is a waste and I cannot apply any of that to my current life situation?”.

No, I am not saying that. You can use your learning, but do not expect the same results from the same learning or effort. Why? Because apart from situational differences, the people around you and the world around you have undergone vast changes and they do not care about your past learning from your past experiences.

I have stopped saying anything about my past successes, experiences, achievements, accomplishments, failures, and so on. These are not necessary ingredients in today’s world, and will never be relevant to the Gen Z folks who are increasingly determining how the world would be run henceforth.

While visiting an earlier version of myself is a cathartic experience for me, I am not applying any of those behaviours to my current time. But I have to say I surely enjoy those little excursions! It helps me in many ways, least of all delivering fresh energy to my being!!

Cheers,
Vijay Srinivasan
13th September 2026

Thinking around corners

This is not a “new” topic per se.

The ability to “see” around corners in our business or personal life is an invaluable asset. We all have it, but we do not deploy it often.

There are several issues in not being in a position to think or see around corners, though there could be multiple signs staring at us which should have been quickly recognized. But we don’t and persevere on the same well-trodden path. We all agree that this ability could lead us to a better prognostication of where life would take us, and allows us to be better prepared for future eventualities, but we refuse to use it.

There are always “weak” signals in the information that we have about a situation. For instance, it could be the high fiscal deficit in a government’s financing of its budget obligations, which would inevitably lead to rating agencies downgrading the country’s debt. There might be impact on the foreign exchange rate of the country’s currency as a result. Are we (as commoners) able to see where the fiscal data is trending towards? Of course, we do as most of us are well read and keep dissecting financial and economic news. If a particular currency is of importance, we should be able to see the potential negative impact on it and take action to at least partially exit towards a stronger currency (in my personal case, it is always the INR and SGD). I did not always “see” around the corner properly, and so I have lost significant money, though I think I am well read and understand the markets (to a certain extent).

Often, we make assumptions about data which eventually turns out to be incorrect. Or, we do not read in between the lines. There are enough data points in the economy at any point in time to indicate where inflation and therefore, interest rates are headed. Are we stupid not to pay attention to critical data staring at us? Are we stupid in making assumptions which are grossly wrong? Why are we always trying to defeat our own rational thoughts?

Human psychology is tough to decipher. We are often led to wrong assumptions or even conclusions by our desire to beat the rest of the world. This might sound “big” but it is true – we always wish to be “better” than most other folks in our society. Tell me if I am wrong.

In business situations, we always analyse the market from multiple angles and a wide variety of perspectives emanating from our colleagues. We do scenario planning. We do contingency planning. We prepare for bad times. But there is always a desire to excel and beat the market at its own game. If things do not turn out as we desired, a blame game would ensue notwithstanding facts on the ground and all the plans that were made.

In personal life situations, we are often slaves to our emotions which could often be irrational. I want to buy a Mercedes which is my “desire”, and I should work towards fulfilling that desire. But do I look around the corner and understand that a simpler and more fuel-efficient car would also do the job it is intended to do in light of the rising fuel prices and taxes?. The facts are known, and the trend can easily be seen though the future data points have not occurred. There are many such examples from our life, where our desire to emulate a particular lifestyle blinds us to the possibilities of a potential (and often inevitable) downturn in the economy. Or, may be you would lose your job due to AI, and then how are you going to finance the EMI for the car or your new apartment?

We cannot exactly see a specific event happening in the future, neither can we identify accurately a potential problem on the road ahead. But if we do not think through potential roadblocks in advance, we would be thrown off our tracks in life, which we do not want. So, constant planning is called for, whether in business or personal life. With things becoming increasingly uncertain, the ability to see around corners will become a prized asset.

The amazing thing about this critical ability is the extent to which it is NOT practiced. When we get together, we speak about current events in business, politics, finance, economy, et al. But we do not predicate what is likely to be the shape of the world in five years from now. We do not wish to do that simply because we are usually afraid, though we are capable of “imagining” things. However, we do not apply our valid imagination skills to our own country for instance, we only “hope” that things will be going good forever. That is nothing but what I would call as “wishful” thinking, not the ability to see around corners.

It is not necessary that such fresh thoughts about the future are good assumptions – they can be wild or completely out of the ordinary. Only by thinking on the totally unknown quantities, scientists delivered innovations which power our life. Is that a rather difficult proposition, only endowed with “special” people like Elon Musk? No, it is not. We need to free our thinking, we are bound by too much conventions and the unwise need to always conform. Obviously, no new things would come out of such traditions.

If you just close your eyes (don’t sleep!) even for couple of minutes, you would possibly see a world wherein there are no cars, or wherein there are no country boundaries, or some such outlandish imagery. This is what is needed to become capable of seeing around the corners where not many people venture out. Not that any of these things would ultimately come true but the fact remains that you are one of the few people who have imagined what could potentially turn out to be our future world.

Well, may be all this sounds hogwash, but close your eyes for a few minutes and imagine a different world!

Cheers,
Vijay Srinivasan
12th September 2026

Why MBA education is no longer relevant

Enrollments for all kinds of under-graduate and graduate programs have started anticipated declines over the past few years, with pronounced drops in highly expensive MBA programs.

The above statement applies to the U.S. primarily, but other countries are also having problems with declining higher education enrollments.

Is it because of the rapid onset of AI in every facet of business and life?

May be, but not entirely. Like every complex issue, there are many factors impinging on this aspect of higher education. One straightforward factor has been the change in the nature of business roles. Corporations no longer want the regular MBAs educated and trained on fundamental business principles. They are now preferring MBA graduates who possess AI fluency which would facilitate them becoming AI product road map managers for instance, or AI strategy consultants who would provide inherent AI knowledge and value to companies in order for them to compete in this new world of business dominated by AI.

There are other factors such as antipathy towards capitalism per se. Younger generations are progressive on social issues and do not appear to be seeking only the riches that the MBA graduates always dreamt about. When the world is apparently changing from a Gen Z perspective, obviously the future consumers are bound to have sympathies very different from that of the baby boomers or even the millennials. Are the world’s large corporations ready for such a huge change, which in their analysis would show up as having a cataclysmic impact?

I have an MBA degree (called as Post Graduate Diploma in Management) from one of the top schools in India. I have to admit that it was a great experience to go through such a rigorous management program, comprising of subjects about which I had no clue coming from an engineering background. I had good classmates who went on to establish themselves (mostly succeesful) in business. Of course I used my pedigree to secure a good job and then move ahead in corporate business circles. Fortunately, I did not have an “MBA attitude” because I left India for Malaysia and then to Singapore in quick succession, wherein there was no grasp of the “power of MBAs”. The situation could have been vastly different in the U.S. In the Far East, my MBA school or the quality of its education was just not known. So I merged with the rest of the folks and never once mentioned the name of my school or amplified what I had learnt. The only big advantage was that you get ever sharper on numbers and analysis due to the MBA training, that’s about it.

After some 25 years of passing out of my MBA school (with flying colours, should I say!), I became a socialist, tired of the excesses of capitalism. I benefited from capitalism at the entry and mid levels to be sure, but reading about inequalities in society, the GINI coefficient, poverty, and the failure of capitalistic democratic governments accelerated the changes in my views on how I perceived society’s picture as a whole (without any guilt). I used capitalism to achieve stability in my life with a variety of attendant uncertainties and big challenges, but I could have survived as well without an MBA degree. It was not an essential accoutrement to my profile or accomplishments.

There have always been two big issues with MBA education: the excessive focus on capitalism and wealth generation to the complete oblivion of the state of the society in which we live in, and the greed it generates in each and every MBA graduate to make money quickly, come what may. Things have changed of late with heavy focus on corporate social responsibility and sustainability, climate change, socialistic approaches towards solving society’s problems and how MBAs can help, poverty reduction, and so on. I do not really know the actual changes in the MBA curriculum even in my own alma mater. Nevertheless, I know that changes have been happening as I receive a regular monthly newsletter from the institute.

Is an MBA qualification required for making money and making good in business?

I would say it is a firm NO from my perspective. My classmates could differ and might have their own rationale for their views. However, my view is that anyone with a basic degree who is very adaptable, agile, sharp, flexible and committed can make it in any business.

So, what is needed to be successful in business? One critical factor is curiosity – the focus on discovering or finding new things and ways to solve or fix problems in the business context; the other is the ability to lead others in business towards a common goal (very critical); a third factor is the ability to make very complex judgements in the absence of data; and, finally, the critical ability to demonstrate a strategic approach to business instead of being good just in an operational mode only. There are other angles of course, but the above four are what I would consider absolutely essential – and all these do not need an MBA education or even an AI tool. Thinking in vacuum is what would position one ahead.

If you are looking for advice on how to save big money by not enrolling in an expensive MBA program, then you have come to one of the useful places (this post obviously!). If I were you, I would focus on quickly building AI skills and demonstrate the use of AI to solve business problems. Remember, AI tools are already being used for complex data analysis, financial modelling, presentation deck preparations, and so on. You can therefore only marginally improve on what such tools produce as output documents – and don’t forget, these tools are becoming more sophisticated and ever more capable every day. There seems to be no end! So, your ability to demonstrate oversight skills, complex judgement, and portray a strategic direction – all become very critical as you get into business even at the entry stage!.

Life is getting to be more interesting, right?

Have a good week ahead, and forget the MBA,

Cheers
Vijay Srinivasan
06 September 2026

The futility of arrangements

You guessed it right, this post is not about some “arrangements” that you get to make in your life. It is about the most significant of all, which is your marriage!

During my time in the past, arranged marriages were the norm. Parents get to decide who you would marry, or at least they would introduce someone to you in the hope that you would choose her or him as your life partner. You would have to generate very strong reasons to reject their recommendation!

Whatever one says, marriage is a rather risky gamble, may be the riskiest of any venture you would undertake. If the bet goes wrong, you are done for. If the bet works out, everything else in life would take care of itself.

I am not saying anything wrong here. Let us say you marry a total stranger with not even a basic introduction, just because your parents insist on the marriage alliance. You must understand that their motive may not always be in your interest. It could be for business-to-business growth purposes as both families are business families, looking to expand via an alliance. And what alliance could be stronger than a successful business-oriented marriage?

But there is always the huge risk of not syncing up with your partner – there could be many reasons starting with personality, psychology of relationship, attitude, mutual respect, belief systems, religious orientation, and so on. For sure, it is not possible to sync up on such factors even in a love marriage. There is no perfect marriage union in any case.

During my time, it was considered that the best manner in which a marriage could work out was when the potential bridegroom and bride at least get to spend a bit of time talking to each other (mostly in front of the parents!), so that there was no possibility of instant likes or dislikes. The girl was always watched closely by her anxious parents who were always desirous of getting her married at the earliest possible opportunity, so that their responsibility would go away. The guy was also watched closely, but it always appeared to me that he had more leverage in the transaction (!), his acceptance of the proposal was seemingly “more” valued. Of course, the girl could firmly reject and walk away. In this description of a potential alliance, I am elaborating on civilised and educated folks on either side, not those from a village environment bound by strict traditional practices where there was always zero chance of saying “no” to a marriage proposal. In the context of cities with modernising population, there was always a chance one could say “no” and walk away from any proposal, though such occurrences should have been rare in my opinion. The key reason for proceeding with a proposal was always the families matching on either side in terms of status in society.

The practice of “dowry” which is a financial gift from the girl’s side to the boy’s side has been a despicable system for hundreds of years, and has not disappeared still even when the girl is as educated with a good employment as the boy. Look at the recent case (there are many such cases), where a highly educated and intelligent bride was allegedly murdered in a high class family in North India for lack of dowry related performance, wherein the mother-in-law was an ex-Judge in a court of law. Amazing to note how the dowry system has deep roots in the Indian society, and has persisted all these years.

However, in these modern times, dowry is losing its importance. Further, the way in which people interact on social media and dating apps leads to a possibly better understanding of a potential relationship, whether it results in a marriage or not. Increasingly, the practice of a marriage alliance which does not involve one’s parents from the start (as was the usual practice), is becoming a de facto method of finding life partners. In “advanced” cases, the partners get married and inform their parents on their successful marriage!

There should be no obligation on anyone’s part to pay dowry money to the other side. Though there are laws on the statute book, these are rarely implemented. Tightening of the dowry laws with exemplary punishment is highly warranted.

Marriage as an institution has already come under investigation because of the money involved in a traditional marriage, most of which is unaccounted for. If “black” money is deployed in paying off the service providers involved in executing a big wedding, the tax sleuths should have been very busy. But unfortunately, that is not the case even today.

The fundamental issue in “marriage corruption” is the mindset of the people (even the civilised, educated ones) which is refusing to accept the new societal norms. If the bridegroom’s parents demand dowry or jewels, there is hardly anything that a willing bride’s family can do, except to accede. If they don’t they lose the alliance, and the possible sync between the two life partners would be torn to shreds.

Let me conclude by saying that the enormous money spent on conducting a wedding by both parties could be spent better in establishing a home and kickstarting the family journey. Is that not more important for the two partners to proceed with their life together?

How about a simple, least expensive “reception” instead of a whole load of ceremonies and functions driven by event planners with budgets to spend? How about getting the whole marriage function executed in a temple or a church, and donating food to the homeless?

Such notions would be anathema to most parents, at least in the Indian context. I am raising these views just so that people would think differently when the next opportunity arises. I know that this is a super-sensitive subject matter which could ruffle feathers.

Whatever it is, the peaceful and successful union of two willing souls cannot be predicated on customs, practices, ceremonies and dowries.

The “arrangement” to agree to live together is not decided by any of these, whether you agree or not as a parent. You are not going to live the lives of the new life partners, right?

Cheers,
Vijay Srinivasan
5th September 2026

The Eternal Debate

Many a time, I have thought about being born in a totally homogeneous society – one single race, one single identity via one common language, one single colour, and one single religion. Of course, not comprising of just one gender!

I thought, “wouldn’t it be wonderful if everyone looks the same and speak the same tongue?” and “wouldn’t it be very helpful if everyone thinks the same way, and do things in life in the same manner?”. “Would I be more patriotic?” is another question on my mind.

You are probably thinking of Japan, and you are right. More than 98% of the residents of Japan were of Japanese ethnicity some time ago, I have not checked the recent figure. If there were a “homogeneous” country on this planet, it could not be any different from Japan. Some other similar nations include South and North Korea, Egypt, Morocco, Bangladesh, etc.,

How would I be if I were a Japanese or Korean?

Most likely, I would behave as one.

But I was born in India, a diverse country with multiple religions, races, languages and skin colours. There are many such nations around the world such as Canada, the U.S., Singapore, Tanzania, Uganda, etc.,

How do people from these countries behave?

It is fascinating to see that the behavioural patterns of people from highly diverse, secular countries are very different from those of the same flock (here I mean “homogeneous” countries). There is more acceptance and tolerance from the diverse set of people rather than the conformance demands of the homogeneous people.

I am not framing the “eternal debate” topic of this post as competing visions of the world. I would definitely feel very different and very constrained depending on where my origins are located. I am not for or against any one set of peoples, I am just thinking how I would take it personally.

Of course, we now see that even large, democratic, and well-diversified countries are having huge impactful debates raging on with regard to diversity vs. majoritarian views. Diversity automatically means that there are a number of minorities in the population who are being treated equally in a democratic setup. They do not feel discriminated against or subjugated simply because they look different, or profess different religions as compared to the majoritarian group of the society. They would feel so in a homogeneous society especially when they cannot speak the language or if their living practices vastly differ from those of the homogeneous people.

Why are these debates critical for preserving a secular society?

It is very important to voice opinions or views in a democratic society, but where the Constitution of the country specifically prohibits discrimination, there has to be respectful discussions, nothing more than that. Secularism is a critical tenet of modern democratic societies. A majoritarian religion, or race, or identity, cannot be allowed to take over the reins of the government. Unfortunately, the so-called defender of global freedom, the U.S. government, is now trying to hew to religious and “colour” pressures from its own society, while berating other nations about their similar tendencies. It is not a helpful development, and if left unchecked can lead to domination of the majority over all the rest of the minorities.

What will be the repercussions?

The minorities will grow more fearful of their lives and livelihood. They will continue to be scared of discrimination which might become official with the silent endorsement of the government. They would not wish to profess their religion or religious practices openly in the public square. They would not voice any opinion which could be misconstrued as unpatriotic or anti-government or anti-national. The majority folks – the extremist sections, not everyone – might exert pressures of various kinds on the minorities, making the already bad situation worse.

Such societies have existed in the past, and that is the reason why secularism should not be dispensed with. It is the one huge pillar on which each and every society should stand.

Diversity is the source of many strengths in society. People who think differently are needed in every facet of the society and government. People who think in the same way and follow the same practices can continue to do what they want to do, or what they have always done, there is no problem with such behaviour. But their condescension towards minorities need to be curbed.

A society which has done this successfully over the past 6 decades is Singapore. I cannot think of a more diverse society with over 200 nationalities represented in just a city-state of some 700 Sq Kms. Where large nations are failing, Singapore has been successful by institutionalizing its Constitution in a practical manner for the benefit of all residents.

Debates will happen on these issues constantly. However, it is hugely important that the educated sections of any society pay attention to the need for diversity, and to the need to respect the views and practices of the minorities. When the majority population expects to be respected, the same applies to the minorities. Religious differences will always exist even amongst the majority population, but that has not stopped from any kind of collaboration. Similarly, the bond between minorities and the majority need to be tightened and shepherded by the government in power in any democratic nation.

Governments who do not ensure societal integration are bound to face big challenges as the equality of the citizens, once disturbed, cannot be restored easily by fiat. This is why people in power should belabour the idea of integration instead of enacting divisive policies which disturb and eradicate the equanimity of the society.

I am not propagating the idea that the majority views should be squashed in favour of the minorities. What is important is to listen to the views of the minorities and address their grievances, especially when they are equal citizens of a country. How the distribution of majorities and minorities came about is not a subject for discussion. Why a religion or identity is more dominant in a society is also not subject for discussion. It is what it is – the key thing is to learn to live together without acrimony.

Cheers,
Vijay Srinivasan
30th August 2026

Daily Chores

Business productivity for the employees of an enterprise or any business has significantly improved over the past couple of years.

The secret sauce, though not secret anymore?

AI tools.

Yes, Artificial Intelligence tools such as ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini, etc., are being used in businesses all across to ensure quick analysis of options that are available for any kind of business decision-making. Or, even for inventing new options, new mechanisms, or new ways of doing or achieving some stated business goal.

Initially I thought all these tools are glorified Google Search engines. They are not. They are transforming the manner in which we conduct business analysis and make business decisions.

I have used Claude and ChatGPT extensively for my personal work. Examples would be as follows: “make a quick comparison of front-loading washing machines of 9 Kgs capacity available in the Singapore market, which come from brands with excellent reputation and high service quality, and which have user reviews not less than four stars, and which also offer extended warranty of additional 2 years minimum over and beyond the manufacturer’s standard 2-year warranty” followed by various additional queries on this one single subject. It might take, let us say, 30 minutes overall, but at the end of this exercise I would have a table of comparison amongst the short-listed three makes of washing machines along with their features, functions, prices, and all the other aspects that I had raised during the conversation with the AI tools. I do not depend on one tool, I open multiple AI tool apps and compare the results offering a second layer of comparison to facilitate my decision-making.

And that is how I bought my washing machine recently to replace the faulty and unrepairable previous machine.

I have many such examples, and I have generally been good in creating detailed prompts and guardrails so that the AI tool does not take to hallucinations, or does not just compliment me for the “quality” and “insight” of my queries. I issue a warning to the AI tool to stay neutral and not to take my side or stand, if I had communicated my position in the prompt itself.

But this blog post is not about such AI tools and their role in improving business or personal productivity in areas such as the above.

I am looking for a robotic AI system (similar to autonomous car driving), which would help me to execute physical chores around my home. These are not just AI tools, these are systems which incorporate advanced bio-mechanics and AI capabilities to figure out what needs to be done around the house, and then go about executing the same. I think such systems are going to transform the home in ways we cannot even imagine, and my prognostication is that would take not less than the next 5 years or so.

Let us say we do have such a humanoid robot (from China, where else) available to me, which I can instruct via an app or a display console on the robot to do some ironing work. I would like my washed and dried clothes to be ironed, and then folded and kept in my section of the wardrobe in the master bed room. I have seen some YouTube videos of “ironing” robots and “clothes folding” robots, but not sure of the same – the videos could have been fake ones generated again, by AI tools!

I would like the humanoid robot to then go around the house and clean up all the floors, may be mop the floors after “dry” cleaning the floors. I would like the robot to then dump all the waste into the dust bin. Then come back and inspect all areas of the house and give me a report via its app.

To go even beyond, how about a humanoid cook? I feed my recipes, and then the robot goes to the fridge and takes the fresh veggies for cutting and preparing the dish. The fridge would then place order for refilling the veggies (such fridges are already available). The robot would follow my recipe and prepare my favourite dal or veggie dishes. It would instruct the hotpot to cook rice of pre-specified quantity. Whenever it has any doubts, it will send a message to me via its app, and wait till I respond.

What else would I need around the house? Dishwashing for example. Sorting clothes for the washing machine. Identify clothes which need to be dried in the dryer. And so on.

Benefits to me? Less physical work around the house, more time to pursue my hobbies, less worries about home cleaning (!) specifically. May be I would go ahead and create a new start up!!

Would I be willing to pay for the humanoid robot?

You bet.

The total cost for hiring and operating a maid service at home is in excess of S$ 1,200 – 1,300 per month. It depends on securing the service of a good maid who meets my specifications and requirements, and would stay at our home for at least 2 years. Every time we change the maid, beyond the usual replacement warranty time, we would incur placement fee of at least S$ 1,800 as well.

If the humanoid robot is available to me on a subscription basis, say at S$ 300 per month even, then it is a no-brainer decision. Even if the capital cost is S$ 20,000 it would still be worth with a warranty coverage of 5 years. China will keep dropping the prices while constantly enhancing the capabilities of humanoid robots. No other nation on earth would be able to match China, not even the U.S.

The consumer market for such robots is going to be huge, so you can expect all kinds of robots coming to the market. How about just a cleaning robot for just S$ 100 per month? Hey, there will be an enormous market even for such a single-use product.

What about the implications for the affected humans who would be losing their jobs? Their livelihood has depended on such “human” jobs available in the marketplace, especially in developed countries such as Singapore.

Would governments step in to protect their jobs, or let the private humanoid companies dictate the marketplace?

We are going to find out soon. Watch this space!

Cheers,

Vijay Srinivasan
Singapore
29th August 2026

Trying to prove a point

I was winding down this Sunday morning with nothing to write about. No topic clicked in my head. Neither did I think about anything unique during this past week. I was tied up with the family.

Just as I was signing off, a thought came into my mind. Why not write about stubborn folks (like me), not willing to give up on their arguments, always trying to prove a point which is embedded in their brain?

I don’t think I wrote specifically about this topic in the past though I might be wrong given the long history of running this blog.

There are always intellectual arguments, competing viewpoints, plain disagreements on certain issues in society, or politics, et al. There will always be such arguments. I am quite well known amongst my network for taking a contrarian position and trying to defend it. Sometimes it is just to provoke a widespread discussion on a substantive matter of importance. May be it is designed to pull in folks who tend to be either silent or stay guarded about their personal opinions, not willing to reveal their mind. But I have always enjoyed such discussions which tend to be open and transparent, notwithstanding any negative ideas that my position might have conveyed to the participants. Basically I was not bothered on what views others hold about me (though in the past some twenty or thirty years ago, I used to be very bothered!).

Now I examine myself on my viewpoints, and what do I discover? My stubbornness, my ego, my pride, my urge to hold and defend my viewpoint, my couldn’t-care-less attitude towards others, and so on. Why did I not give up and subscribe to others’ views even on non-critical issues? Why should I be so obstinate? Why should I always try to win my argument? Why could I have not been nicer in my approach? I have many such questions but no answers (as usual!).

Unfortunately, such disagreements span not just my network of friends but also across my family. If such strong arguments span across generations, then there would be serious repercussions. I have witnessed some such encroachments when I have been politely ignored, except to laugh it off. The younger generation is much too different for these serious deliberations. They have their own views on how things have to be done, only it is not in my way. Can I do anything about that? Nope. You have to let them manage their affairs in the manner that they think would be best.

Another thought dawned on me this morning: should I always be right about everything, or should I be happy about my existence today? Serious question, right? My derivation today is to focus on happiness rather than on being “right”, not even knowing what is right. Happiness is more critical for mental well-being, rather than feeling that I have done something right by arguing my case very well!

My partner often points out that I always argue about everything, even small matters that she brought up for a conclusion. Why should I take the view that something as mundane as the cleaning efficiency of a cleaning robot is NOT as good as my physical cleaning work? Especially when she can easily refute my point. This extends to almost anything – which bread is better, or which brand of washing detergent is better? There is no end to such arguments. She always points out to me that I seem to be having a position on everything under the sun, which according to her is not a necessary condition for a better life experience.

Now, I agree with her, after all these years.

May be I wanted control over everything in my life, however insignificant it is…not surprising given the control freak I was (not any more). May be I wanted recognition for my views. May be I wanted to be respected for my “right” kind of views.

As time went on, I realised that being right is not the same as being wise. I might be factually right in my views, but not really wise enough to steer the discussion towards my point of view without offending any one.

Why have disagreements become such hot topics in today’s world?

Not surprising to figure out the answer.

It is because of social media which provide an instant platform to offer views, contest views, and disagree vehemently with others’ views. For instance, I don’t wish to admit defeat in a social public square, while I might concede my defeat in a private conversation. When hundreds or thousands of people are witnessing what is happening, you become extremely sensitive and cautious about the impression you wish to convey. It cannot be defeat or demeaning, it has to be positive and it better be a winning argument.

The key thing to realise is that it is not necessary to argue publicly with anyone on social media about the views you hold dear. What is the point? Who are we trying to convince? Is anything going to change if you win an argument on social media?

No, nothing at all.

Then why bother to be even on social media?

Many a time we have to concede – we may not know the answer to a question. It would be better to concede and say that you don’t know, rather than engage in a fake argument in which no one is likely to win. Ultimately, you go home with a heavy heart since you really did not have the answer and you wasted everyone’s time in arguing from a fake position.

Nowadays, I am less interested in proposing or winning an argument. I don’t wish to be right even in an argument thrown at me by someone else. I will think of course, but I do not need to be right. Trying to be right creates a feeling of uncertainty in me as I really do not know if I am going to be right at the end. Better stay uncertain and listen to arguments from all sides.

Have a good week ahead folks,

Cheers,
Vijay Srinivasan
23rd August 2026

Has writing changed my thinking?

This is a topic I have often wondered about, but could never bring myself to write about.

It has always been the case that I think about a topic of interest and high personal relevance, and then set out to write about it in my blog. I always enjoyed the thinking process as it strains my mind to all of its corners to extract my thoughts, past happenings, positive and negative memories, experiences, learning, etc., If I do not carry out such a tough thinking process, I won’t be able to formulate my thoughts and then to eventually write about a specific topic.

But what about the reverse process? That is not about writing something on a topic. It is about how my various topical writings have influenced me (!) to change my own outlook, orientation, and future behaviour. It puzzled me for quite a while, and even now I don’t have a complete answer. But I decided to convert this reverse thought into a new blog post!

It is fascinating to probe deep into this aspect of writing and thinking. I am now thinking as I write out this post (!), yes it keeps me totally engaged and my mind completely focused.

Have I become more opinionated, or more willing to change my mind, because of what I wrote in the past? Or, because one of my readers expressed his / her opinion which changed my mind on the topic? Or, have I become less willing to change my mind and much more rigid in my views? Have I become more analytical as I pursue my current and future blog posts? Possible, yes. Have I now become more questioning of myself and the world around me? Have I become more intelligent? Not really!

You see, these are rather puzzling and interesting queries on my own mind as I have been able to analyze my own writings over the past two decades when I was engaged in preparing my eBook Volumes. I was sometimes taken aback on reading what I had written several years ago. I found that I had expressed contrary opinions on the same or similar topic. I had changed my opinions on something that I strongly felt about. And, now I wish to change some of my old posts! Obviously, I am not going to do that, but I could feel the push on my back and on my mind to do so.

Things around me have changed substantially. I have formed new bonds and new relationships. I have had the opportunity to re-examine some of the old relationships. I have made decisions which I would not have dared to do many years ago. And so on.

But the critical question is that has my writing changed me irrevocably and made me take decisions which I wouldn’t have taken sometime in the past?

This is a rather difficult examination.

Before I come to an answer for the above question, let me say something. I started writing because I had something to say to me, I wanted to express my own thoughts to myself. Sounds strange, but true. I never had any audience in my mind even after the past twenty years of writing. In other words, I was justifying my opinions to my own incredulous and investigative mind. At the end of the day, we have to answer to our conscience and our mind, right? I have struggled with this process, as many a time I was not able to provide a detailed explanation of why I wrote out something the way I did. Dealing with one’s own conscience ought to be the most challenging exercise one could undertake.

When I write something, it is always because I believed in my ideas or opinions. Once I write it out and publish the same, the piece becomes a sort of commitment from me on my views. I found that there are some issues with my approach: I write based on my instinct (like what I am doing right now in a word-rolling fashion), and I rarely look for hard evidence. Not that I am an accomplished author who needs to justify each and every one of his words or thoughts – on the contrary, I believe that my freshest thoughts have brimmed up on my mind because I have always been a free bird with no constraints whatsoever.

But one thing has come about now – I am not always willing to defend my views, but more willing to re-examine the same. This is one significant output for me. I have always considered my thoughts to be precious to me at least, so before committing to paper I do give myself the benefit of a decent topic analysis. One thing I can surely state is that I have become much more self-aware, simply because I have written a lot about myself and my experiences. You could potentially form a character portrayal based on what I had written about myself.

I also discovered something unique in myself – I do not trust established institutions, and I make assumptions on certain people which may not be justifiable. I have biases and some inherent prejudices that I have still not addressed.

Another area which requires deep examination would be “why I think what I wrote makes a defensible case, and why I think I am always right about my opinions?”. Interesting, makes me think that many of my views should be subject to analysis on their premise, whether based on strong ground or on a weak personalized hypothesis.

As I have mentioned in the introduction and/or epilogue of my eBook Volumes, I am not sure of any conclusions on the topics I have written about. There is always an open query in my mind when I finish a blog post, like this one. I do not have the answers. Not sure. Requires much more thought and analysis. And so on.

At the end, I am arguing with myself on my own past ideas, opinions and views. There is no and never will be a conclusion on any of the topics. And that is the fascinating conclusion that I am getting to!

Have a good weekend,

Cheers,
Vijay Srinivasan
22nd August 2026