Our dreams in life do not always fit the budgets that we can make out, right?
Of course, all of us have dreams in life. We wish to achieve a lot, to say the least (!). We know that our time is limited on this planet, so not only we wish to make a lasting mark and leave an unforgettable legacy, we also wish to live out our lives well.
Which means in a “rich” fashion. Above the milling average? Or, way beyond from where we came at the start of our life or career?
Very few of us have big inheritances right from the day we were born in this world. Most, almost all of us, had to work hard to build our lives – some of us even from scratch. I know a few friends in that category. I also fall into that category.
So, it is not surprising that when we do achieve a reasonable sense of well-being in life, we tend to want more of the same. None of us want to become monks in the Himalayas, right?
I recently finished Chapter 2 of The Bhagwad Gita (I have undertaken a weekly Sunday Zoom Class conducted by an able spiritual leader coming from the corporate world, actually a practicing corporate lawyer!). While I personally thought that this Chapter 2 was meandering on repetitive issues, the final takeaway was clear – try to abandon meaningless desires in life, and do not get attached to the outcomes of your efforts. I think it is a very difficult proposition (at least for me), and I am not fully signed up for that kind of teaching. But, it set me thinking.
If we wish to achieve riches and lead a rich life, driving around in an exotic sports car, living in a bungalow, and flying first class on flights, does all of that mean we have achieved the impossible? At least, what we thought was not possible in our life?
No.
It is absolutely clear that a bus ride is good enough to get around. Or, an apartment is good enough to live. Or an economy class flight is just fine. And, so on. Luxuries in life which you might enjoy should be shunned if you are not able to even spend just 10% of that extra money on charities. Or, just think of innocent people dying in wars, for example in Ukraine, Yemen, etc.,
There is always a contrarian school of thought which despises the above line of thinking. It goes like this……..what is that one is going to gain or lose by foregoing what otherwise one would have normally enjoyed? What is indeed the point of refusing luxuries in life which is running out fast on a time clock?
The fallacy here is rather stark. If you are able to lead a life of utmost luxury, without ever a thought of the deprived, oppressed and harassed folks just around the corner in your own city, then there must be something implicitly wrong in your mental make-up. You might even go to the extent of saying “those impoverished people better work hard for their living – they are not doing so. They are always looking for external helping hand”. That statement is not surprising at all – that is what Capitalists say about the Socialists, who the Capitalists think are on dole (!). Capitalists create wealth. Socialists destroy wealth. So the thinking goes.
Let me now come to the issue of budgets. Many of us try to stretch our budget taking on debt, in order to achieve a specific luxury item in life which appeared difficult or impossible to get in our past. What is a better status symbol to onlookers (which might include some of your own family members, relatives and friends – and don’t forget business colleagues) than display your latest luxury German car? Or, invite some of these same folks to your palatial new home?
Stretching our budget and taking on debt is the most unwise thing that one can do in life. Even if you are in a position to repay the debt. Operating within your means is simply the way to go. It might mean making some unpalatable compromises. So be it.
I have constantly resisted the temptation to splurge, and have mostly remained within my budget on all things. Making a budget within your means is the most critical life learning that one should learn. Avoiding debt is another parallel life learning.
All this does not mean that you dream small. No. On the contrary, dream big to achieve huge milestones in your career. Dream big to influence your children and friends in the most substantive manner, using your knowledge and life know-how. Dream big to influence the society around you, even in a limited way. All these big dreams do not require that you drive a Lamborghini.
Recently, I put my car out on the second hand car market in Singapore, hoping to get a reasonable price. I could not, so I am still having the car. The reason for selling the car is simple: I do not have a need. My daily use of the car is rather limited, most days it is in the parking lot in my apartment. And, I could get around easily by using public transportation, which is efficient and quite fast. On the other hand, an unused car costs a lot in Singapore in terms of various levies and sunk costs.
The point is this – reducing your desires becomes easy if you really consider the “utility” value of that desire in an economic sense, rather than in a spiritual manner. So, kick out the unwanted desires in your life, and tell me if you have seen a marked improvement.
Our “economic” dreams do not always fit our budgets. Either you reduce the size of those dreams or your budgets. I think you can still have big dreams with a budget with which you are comfortable.
Sounds impossible?
It is definitely possible. You can consult me (!!!).
Have a good weekend folks,
Cheers,
Vijay Srinivasan
16th September 2023